"When something bad happens you have three choices.  You can let it define you, let it destroy you, or you can let it strengthen you."  - Daystar

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About Me

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Many people who get in touch with me have already found NHS Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) ineffective for their needs.  This is because CBT encourages people to think their way out of emotional distress.... without looking at what might have happened to cause that distress in the first place.  Some clients have also been prescribed anti-depressants to cope with life experiences or labelled with a "disorder" to help explain what they are going through....  This can sometimes bring a sense of relief to those who have grown tired of trying to explain to others how they feel - but it can also define people....  The sharp increase in prescription drugs in recent years on the back of a non-medical behavioural diagnosis is also worrying.

Although prescription drugs may help people cope with overwhelming feelings.... they will not help anyone understand, manage or overcome cause(s) of ‪anxiety‬, ‪depression‬, ‪trauma, relationship difficulties or anything else.  This is because the vast majority of emotional and behavioural reactions are rooted in life experiences which affect us all in different ways.  Similarly, there is "no blood test, mouth swab, hair sample, biopsy, spinal tap, x-ray, brain imaging, or any other way to diagnose...."  anyone with a disorder.**

 

Having survived the impact of complex trauma(s) myself many years ago, I became aware of my own reactions to situations, thoughts, feelings and behaviours.... and despite an academic journey, will always maintain that life experiences taught me far more than years of psycho-social study.  Nevertheless, I graduated with a BSc. (double) Honours Degree in 2006 and soon afterwards, completed additional counselling training while working as a Personal Coach in an alternative educational provision for troubled young people.... and it was around this time when I first started teaching - working alongside young people considered too challenging for mainstream education.

 

Over the years, I have worked extensively with emotional difficulties and psychological trauma.... including anger management, anxiety, conflict resolution and recovery from narcissistic and domestic abuse.  I also undertook formal teacher training.... going on to provide Internal Quality Assurance for the North Essex Centre for Counselling and Psychotherapy some years later. 

 

I eventually began private practice in 2015 - alongside a move into teaching and assessing accredited qualifications in Counselling Skills for ACL, Essex.  The N E Essex Psychologies (N.E.E.P.) Training Centre was founded shortly afterwards and I have continued teaching, alongside running a private practice ever since.  From time to time, I am also an Independent Clinician within the Transforming Care Programme - in liaison with NHS England and Essex County Council and am part-way through a Masters Degree in Mental Health through the Open University.

 

Some of my students have progressed onto degree courses after successfully completing the NCFE CACHE Level 3 Diploma course, while others have used their qualification to progress within the workplace.  Some have enrolled after being out of education for some time and others have enrolled purely because they find the subject matter interesting and relevant.  There is no one-size-fits-all and everyone is welcome to apply.

I have been registered with Counselling Ltd UK for over 12 years and am an accredited member of APA (Ayanay Psychological Accreditation); a rapidly expanding professional membership organisation for Counsellors, Psychotherapists, Mental Health professionals and Coaches; where life and work experiences are valued in conjunction with academic qualifications and training. 

For more information on accredited training courses including how to apply, please click the link below.

** Borderline Personality Disorder - New Perspectives on a Stigmatizing and Overused Diagnosis 

- Jacqueline Simon Gunn & Brent Potter (2015).

"You can conquer almost any fear

if you will only make up your mind to do so.

For remember, fear doesn't exist anywhere

except in the mind."

 

DALE CARNEGIE

 

 

MARI BEZER
BSc. (Hons)
APAPAL Accred; CCC Reg.

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PRIVATE PRACTICE
COUNSELLOR & PSYCHOTHERAPIST
FOUNDER / MANAGER
N.E.E.P.  TRAINING CENTRE